whats best better to get for a beginner such as myself

Body lift is easier and cheaper to go... what are you driving, and what do you want to do wtih your vehicle?

2002 frontier v6 4x4 and i want it to be able to handle almost any thing i can throw at it

Solid axles: Suspension lift. Only use body lift if absolutely neccessary,

IFS: Body lift. Your CVs will thank you! So will your steering (though stock suspension w/33" tires also kills steering in a flash). Want it tough? Replace your steering w/SLR or Calmini, Upper control arms w/Total Chaos (this will add travel and strength, by only ading 1" of lift), and either use 52-56" long Yota springs in the rear (requires moving frame mounts) or go cheap and buy Revolvers. Both require longer shocks (10"-12" travel) and shock relocation.